You got yourself together and found the person of your dreams, but something is wrong. Your relationship is stuck, it's not going to the next level, commitment. What the hell is going on? I mean, you've poured out your heart, spent intimate time together and have shared each other's space, and your partner is holding back. How many times have you questioned yourself for what's going on? How many times have you did more to show them how much you care? Once more are they looking at you the way you are looking at them? This is not a hard question to answer, I am sure I can come up with a lot more, but for now you may be dealing with a commitment phobe. Face it, you are not moving the relationship along the way you envisioned it in your mind. This is not your fault, its your partners. If they have you in the dark as to what's going on, they have commitment issues and you may have gotten a little too close for comfort, if you know what I mean.
Commitment Phobes don't give away their heart. They are not into loving anyone but themselves and for good reason, they've been hurt. Arguments send fear rushing through their veins, it is about to be over, in their minds. Which is why many commitment phobes make good lovers, great partners, because they know what you want and how to give it, just they are not sincere. They are heavily guarded and so is their heart. Getting to a commitment phobes heart will take you becoming a heart surgeon, they are just that protective of getting hurt. Once more they lose interest quickly, it's just their way of not connecting to you on a deeper level.
What do you do with your commitment phobe? The answers are within you, loving someone should not be hard work. You should never have to prove yourself in your relationship that means there is no trust and where there is smoke, there is fire. Which simply means where there is no trust their is no love or loyalty. If you are going to make this thing work it will take you getting to the bottom of what is going on. What makes your commitment phobe fearful to commit to you? Many times all one has to do is look back into the past for those answers. Once more you can be dealing with someone who isn't willing to accept they have commitment issues. The worse commitment phobe is the one who knows it and has no problems playing with your heart. What are you going to do about it? If you are tired of chasing this person around, proving how much you love them with no reassurance from them, it's time to move on, but you knew that already!
The fact that your relationship has stalled and your partner won't take it to the next level should be motavation for you to cut it off. To learn more about commitment phobes pick up your copy of " Sabotage," today by Johanna Sparrow.